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Author: Amy (she/her)
Date: June 21, 2025
Sometimes being queer and plural at the same time means that you're very much confused about who you are in general. Sure, you can be confused about who you are even if you're not both, but I feel like queerness and plurality combined can cause a TON of confusion.
We're aroace regardless of who we are at any given moment, but that's basically the only certainty we have about ourselves. We are pretty sure we're plural, but sometimes we question our plurality. We always come to the conclusion that we're plural, though.
Aside from that, we tend to ask ourselves who we are all the time. Like, what is my name, pronouns and gender? We always have a hard time answering these questions. Everything feels vague. I'm Amy right now, and I feel vaguely like a girl. I'm okay with she/her pronouns, but I don't care that much about pronouns, but at the same time I care enough to go by she/her specifically. I feel like I might be otherkin, but I'm not sure, but I'm also not sure if I'm human.
See what I mean? I only know these things because I reflected quite a lot about my identity, and I feel like I haven't figured it out.
Anyway, before we found out we were plural, we just thought we were just a girl and a boy at the same time, so we identified as bigender. We thought that we needed to transition in order to feel better, but now we're not so sure. I don't really know if the pain we feel on a daily basis is gender dysphoria, but it definetely has something to do with identity stuff.
Unfortunately, we don't know who we are and if we'll ever find out. We think we're just one person with many identities, but the identities are so vague... It's very confusing. I'll do my best to find myself and be myself as well!